Setting Boundaries

You’re Allowed to Take Up Space

Setting boundaries isn’t selfish. It’s self-respect.

Yet, it’s one of the hardest things many of us are never really taught, especially if you’re used to keeping the peace, putting others first, or feeling like your needs are too much.

Here, we’re going to break it down gently.
No guilt. No pressure. Just honest language, human experiences, and tools that help.

How to Set a Boundary Without Guilt

You don’t need to justify your limits.

It’s okay to:

Say no without over-explaining
Ask for space, even from people you love
Prioritise your energy, time, and emotional bandwidth

That guilt you feel? It’s not a sign you’re doing something wrong, it’s a sign you’re doing something new.

Try this journal prompt to explore your feelings: “What am I afraid will happen if I set this boundary?”

Scripts for Saying No, Asking for Space, or Protecting Your Energy

When the words are hard to find, let us help you start the conversation.

🗣️ Saying no (with kindness):

“I really appreciate the invite, but I need to take some time for myself right now.”

🗣️ Asking for space:

“I care about you and I also need some breathing room to reset. Can we reconnect later?”

🗣️ Protecting your energy:

“This topic is really heavy for me at the moment. Can we talk about something else?”

Browse the full “Boundaries Script Library” →
Use the interactive journal to practice your own wording →

Boundaries in Friendships, Family, and Work

Different spaces need different boundaries and they can be the hardest to set with the people closest to us.

Friendships:

You can say no to last-minute plans
You’re allowed to take breaks from constant contact
It’s okay to outgrow people we love

Family:

You don’t have to explain your choices
You can say no to topics or behaviours that hurt you
Distance doesn’t mean you don’t care

Work:

Your time outside of work is yours
You’re allowed to say “I’m at capacity”
You can be respectful without being always available

You’re Allowed to Protect Your Peace

Boundaries aren’t walls. They’re bridges to healthier connection.

They say:
“This is how I can show up fully.”
“This is what helps me feel safe.”
“This is what I need to honour myself and care for you honestly.”

And that’s not too much.
That’s just human.